For 2 Billion users (and still growing) all over the world, Facebook is already a part of daily life.

Some people just couldn’t live without it. Their day won’t be complete without checking what’s happening on Facebook on their computers and gadgets.

It’s where they get their news from family and friends as well as showbiz news and current events.

It’s a virtual place where people socialize online, given that people are actually interacting on certain Facebook posts.

Facebook is also a platform where people post about what they’re eating, their latest purchases or latest love interest, etc. And for some, they treat it like a live journal or a dynamic daily diary of sort, myself included.

It’s also a crazy virtual world where too much time is consumed and emotions invested over mere online relationships, often with people who invited you as a Facebook friend, but they’re not commenting nor even liking your Facebook posts leaving you lonely, insecure, or even confused.

To come up with this article, I recently posted this question on my Facebook wall: “Why would someone invite you on Facebook as friend and not like or comment to any of your posts, or send you any message since your connection?” And I had an interesting number of likes and comments, and even emoticons and gifs to boot.

Based on my Facebook network’s responses and based on personal experiences, here are possible reasons why people are not liking or commenting on your Facebook posts:

  1. No Internet – Yes, you read it right. Maybe this person who invited you as Facebook friend doesn’t have regular internet access, so he/she couldn’t like or comment on your Facebook posts.
  2. Unfollowed Quickly – Perhaps after you accepted his/her Facebook friend invite, he/she quickly unfollowed you after seeing your posts in his/her newsfeed.
  3. Too Many Distractions – There are just too many things to see, do, and watch on Facebook. Perhaps these people from whom you’re expecting likes or comments are just plain distracted to even do so.
  4. Passive Lurkers – Maybe too that they’re just passively scrolling on their Facebook newsfeed without really responding to anything at all, not just to your posts but to their other contacts too. Maybe they just want to be entertained and nothing more.
  5. Laziness – They’re just too lazy to even hit “Like” or type a single letter. LOL!
  6. Uninterested – Maybe they couldn’t relate to your posts or it doesn’t have any emotional appeal for them. Also, maybe you post too much selfies that it irks them.
  7. Numbers game – It’s possible too that they just want to add online friends and it doesn’t mean that much to them as it does to you. Could it be your fault to expect too much from them?
  8. Selfish Networking – Your Facebook contact is possibly not really genuinely interested about you or what you do, and just wants to interest you in what they’re doing: maybe sales, or a cause that they’re really passionate about.
  9. Future mutual benefit – Perhaps they’re thinking they could use your help someday, or they could possibly help you too eventually for a joint project or a business.
  10. Irritating Facebook notifications – If you’ve been using Facebook for quite a while now, you know that there’s a “Turn off notification for this post” option after you liked or commented on a Facebook friend’s post. But then, sometimes, it just doesn’t freaking work! That even if you’ve already done that, you still keep getting notified by the comments of your friend’s contacts, even if you don’t know what they’re actually yakking about. Maybe they don’t want to risk it.
  11. Creepy Stalkers – It could be true too that they just want to stalk you. Face the fact: the internet is a hideaway place for stalkers, trolls, perverts, and even scammers. Be careful who you deal with online because you could be their next victim.

So let’s do a “reality versus expectations” check, my friend. Manage your expectations. Don’t expect too much from online friends, even with family members and offline friends.

At the same time, be cautious with your online interactions. It could be a crazy world out there in cyberspace. And as always, think before you post.

Adrian is a professional Events Host, Writer, Teacher, and Change Catalyst. He's a world-class emcee creating fun, memorable, and meaningful events. As a change catalyst, his mission is to inspire personal development so people could have better lives with brighter future, against all odds. An IELTS- and TESOL-certified English Trainer, he's also a prolific Tagalog Tutor.